When does moj ask “Who takes it?”?
moj asks it about two kinds of entry. The first is an appointment that only people without an account of their own are going to. That is usually a child, sometimes a great-grandmother. The second is a task with a date that nobody has taken yet.
If you send a task without a name and only adults with their own accounts live with you, the task is yours. moj doesn’t ask in that case. If a child or someone without an account of their own lives with you, moj asks.
If an adult with their own account is going too, moj doesn’t ask unless you asked for help yourself. If nobody at all is in the appointment, it doesn’t ask either. moj only asks about the next 14 days. Appointments that have already started are left out.
Two kinds of appointment never ask. One doesn’t block time, such as “The kids are with me”. The other is marked “Goes alone”.
Who does moj ask?
moj asks all the adults and caregivers who can see the entry. It doesn’t ask children. The person who sent the entry gets no notification. They still see the question on “Today”, though.
If you live in two households, it also matters where the children are at the moment. If you have put that in as an appointment, moj asks nobody during that time. Whoever has the children is in charge. If that appointment names two adults, moj only asks those two.
This only applies to the children’s appointments. A task with a date still asks everyone who can see it. How to put the weeks in is explained in Two households.
Where do you see the question?
You see it in two places. The first is a notification as soon as the entry is added. For an appointment it reads “Who goes with Mo?”, followed by the title and time. For a task it reads “Who takes this?”.
The second place is “Today”. The entry appears there under “Who takes it?” until somebody has taken it on. At night moj holds the notification back until morning.
How do you say yes?
Tap “I’ll take it”, either in the notification or on “Today”. For an appointment, you are then added to it. For a task, you become the person in charge.
If the appointment repeats, moj asks “Just this once or every time?”. If you choose “Every time”, you are added to every future appointment in the series.
A sentence works too: “I’ll take Mo to swimming today”. moj adds you to the existing appointment rather than creating a second one. The sentence can also name somebody else: “Grandma’s driving Mo”. moj then adds Grandma.
The others are told. They get a notification like “Ben is taking it: Swimming”, followed by the time. If you added Grandma, it says “Grandma is taking it”. If you tapped by mistake, the message that appears afterwards offers “Undo”.
And if nobody needs to go along?
Then tap the cross next to “I’ll take it”. It means “Needs nobody” and clears the question for everyone. For a series, moj asks whether that applies just to this appointment or to all of them.
In the appointment itself, the same thing is called “Goes alone”. moj then stops reminding any adult about it too. A child with their own phone is still reminded if they have switched reminders on.
Here too the message offers “Undo”. One tap brings the question back.
How do you ask for help yourself?
Write the question just as you would ask it out loud: “who can take Lina tomorrow from 7am to 2pm?”. moj adds the appointment for Lina and replies “I’ll ask the others who can take it on.”
If the appointment is already in the calendar, moj doesn’t add a second one. It asks the others about that very appointment, such as Lina’s speech therapy. You can ask about your own appointments too: “Picking up furniture on Saturday at 10, who can help me?”. The question stays open until somebody other than you is in the appointment.
moj asks all the adults and caregivers who can see Lina. That applies even in a week when Lina is with you. Whoever takes it on is then added to the appointment, and you are told.
What doesn’t work here?
No saying no. There is no “I can’t”. The question stays open for the others, and nobody hears about a refusal.
No question on WhatsApp. moj only writes back there when you write to it. The reason is in When moj reminds you.
No custom list of who gets asked. moj asks everyone who can see the entry. So anyone who shouldn’t be asked mustn’t be able to see it.
Last updated 12 October 2026. This is what the app actually does on that date.
Short answers
Why does moj ask me who is going along?
Because the only person going to the appointment can’t get there on their own. That means a child, even one with their own phone, or someone without an account of their own. Somebody has to take them, and moj doesn’t know who. One tap on “I’ll take it” answers the question for everyone.
Does moj ask the children too?
No. moj asks the adults and the caregivers who can see the entry.
Can I say no?
Not as such. If you can’t do it, just leave the question. It stays open for the others until somebody takes it on.
How do I clear the question when nobody needs to go along?
Tap the cross next to “I’ll take it”. It means “Needs nobody” and clears the question for everyone. For a series, moj asks whether that applies to every appointment.
Why doesn’t moj ask during the other parent’s week?
Because the children are with them then. If you have put the weeks in as an appointment, moj knows who is in charge at the time.
Last updated 12 October 2026. Who moj reminds of an appointment is explained in When moj reminds you. Who sees what is set out in Who sees what.
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